Our inner changes are never smoothly gradual. Though often subconscious, they always take place suddenly, like if in sharp leaps between levels, originating from precise -though not always identifiable- happenings in our life.
And that is how we fall in love.
We know the other person, we feel attracted, we treat him/her for some time, shorter or longer, we realize that we might very well love, but still we don’t. Not yet.
Now, in a given moment something takes place, important or trifle: a movie, a trip, a walk, a gesture, a word… and then we literally “fall” in love, abruptly passing from one level to another, like if love could only exist or be served in quantums.
That is how we fall in love… and that is also how we stop loving.